I continue to be shocked by the callousness of the general population. You’d think by this point I’d be used to it and it wouldn’t affect me so much….but it still does. This weekend I was reading a news article about the death of the teenage boy at the amusement park in Georgia. What a horrible tragedy.
Was it a stupid decision on his part to climb over 2 fences and to go into a restricted area near the roller coaster? Of course. Did he make a terrible decision to defy authority and break the rules? Yes.
People commenting on this article in the online paper were harsh. They made jokes about his stupidity causing him to “lose his head”. (the poor boy was decapitated in the accident) I thought those callous comments came from very small minds….and very hard hearts.
Honestly, he was a 17 yr. old boy on a church youth trip. He didn’t hurt anyone else, it’s not like he robbed a bank or something. He broke the rules and thought nothing would happen to him…that he’d get away with it. How many teenagers (and esp. teenage boys!) do stupid things EVERY day and it’s only by the grace of God that they don’t die? It doesn’t make their stunts right, but it does happen. Teenagers think they are invincible and that bad stuff will never happen to them. This boy made a horrible mistake and paid with his life. Instead of making fun at a sad situation the people that commented need to take a step back and consider how they would feel if this were THEIR son. It wouldn’t be so funny then.
I’m reading the book Failing Forward –Turning Mistakes Into Stepping Stones for Success by John C. Maxwell.
I love to read this mans books. He is very insightful and has a way of getting to the point of things. This is definitely not one of those feel good books, it is the sort of book that one really has to ponder and think about.
On one page he quotes Thomas Edison saying, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” This got me to thinking about myself and how I handle my mistakes or failures in life. What do I do when things don’t go exactly as I hoped? I tend to be a perfectionist. I don’t want to fail at things, and so there have been times when I haven’t tried because I thought I might not do well. Honestly, I’ve probably missed out on some good things because of that. Everyone makes mistakes. It truly is what we do with those mistakes that matters. If I choose to be kind to myself and realize that I might fail on occasion but that doesn’t make me a failure, then I’ve learned something. It truly is about keeping the right perspective.
On page 18 Mr. Maxwell reminds us, “that we each have a choice to make. Are we going to sleep life away, avoiding failures at all cost? Or are we going to have to wake up and realize this:failure is simply a price we pay to achieve success. If we learn to embrace that new definition of failure, then we are free to start moving ahead and failing forward.”
I saw a story on the news today about a mother and her autistic son who were asked to get off a plane.
The young child was upset and “having a melt down”. The mother was trying to calm him, but not having much success. The flight attendants showed no compassion and the pilot decided to ask her and her son to leave.
Now some people will say that the airline had every right to do that. That they can’t have all that commotion going on in the airplane. Okay, fine. Maybe that is true, especially after 9/11….but this woman and her son are not terrorists. Obviously this woman could have used some help. This little boy has special needs and it was just he and his mother on this flight. What was she to do? Has compassion just gone out the door? What if you had been in her shoes…just trying to get home to family?
The story really bothered me.
Okay people. I just don’t get it. What is the deal with the high school girls in Massachusetts that made a pact to get pregnant and raise their children together? Are they crazy? I believe so. After getting over the initial shock that girls would actually do this ON PURPOSE, I thought to myself WHY?? It truly is sad that they wouldn’t be able to see that having a child is serious business, it is not a baby doll. A baby is totally dependent on mom and dad and takes much more then he/she is able to give in return…..at least at first. Stories like this just make me think, what in the world?? Who in their right mind would have ever thought that it would come to this? That getting pregnant is like a game. You know who I really feel sorry for? The babies. There is no way on God’s green earth that a 14 or 15 year old girl knows how to take care of an infant and all that, that entails.
Okay. I’ve had it. Scott and I went to Wal-mart tonight and the Wal-mart in Bellefontaine has a gas station out front. When we went in it was $3.96—when we came out 30 minutes later in was $3.99. Can you believe it? Just 30 minutes and up 3 cents. We drove down the street and Speedway was up to $4.05. Now, I realize that in some parts of the country it is more then that….still. When Scott filled up our van the other day it was nearly 80 bucks. I about fell out of my seat.
Hey, getting a horse for each of us isn’t seeming like such a far fetched idea.
I’m currently reading The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch. Scott told me about this man after hearing about him on FOX news. Being that both Scott and I were widowed at young ages it resonates with me even more then the average person. Mr. Pausch found out that he was dying from terminal cancer and he was only in his mid 40’s. His children were (and are) all very young. He realized that there are certain things in this life that are more important than others. He made a “last lecture” speech at Carnegie-Mellon where he had been a professor.
It really is true…..people get so worried about stuff, that in the big scheme of things, doesn’t really matter. Things should not be all consuming. Relationships are the most important thing. Wisdom imparted, memories made, laughs shared, burdens carried, hands held, knowing looks, goofy stories, emotion shown…these are the sort of things that make life interesting. These are the things that make life worth living.
This book really makes one think about what their legacy will be? When people look back on my life what will they see? How will I be remembered? It’s worth thinking about.
I am now officially a fan of the ice road truckers. The show comes on Sunday nights on the History channel. The show is in it’s second season. This season they are 100 miles above the Arctic circle. They are literally driving semi trucks, fully loaded, across parts of the frozen Arctic Ocean. It is amazing how people come in to make the ice roads and then the men drive these trucks across the ice roads to get equipment and supplies to these oil companies.
My first husband was a truck driver for a food service company….and he also did a short stint as a freight hauler. During that time period, before I had Kendrick, I rode with him for one week. I can honestly say truck driving is not for me. For one thing, I couldn’t stay awake long enough to be a truck driver, also I couldn’t back a 53′ trailer into a narrow opening at a loading dock. Also, I am directionally challenged so there is no telling where I would have ended up at. Supposed to be in St. Louis and ended up in Sante Fe. hahaha.
So anyway, I find the ice truckers interesting. They only have a 2 month window to get the supplies to oil companies in the Arctic. After that 2 month period the roads start to melt. I’d hate to be the guy who is on one of the last runs and the ice starts cracking…….
Back to Ohio…..again. I love Ohio, but I can’t say I’m a big fan of the 6 hour drive to get there. We have been living in limbo for several months and we will be living in limbo for several months to come. ugh. As you can probably tell I’m in a blah funk this morning. Some of it is because I’m tired. I wasn’t feeling all that great last night. I felt kind of achy. I don’t think that is going to bode well for a long trip today. I will probably not be the best traveling partner. If anyone tries anything today I might zap them with the laser beams that shoot out of my eyes. It is my “if mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” look. My look can be fairly terrifying….esp. to young children and animals.
My oldest son evidently didn’t sleep much last night (which isn’t unusual) and he was up when I got up this morning. He was bouncing around like Tigger on speed and goofing around with me. I was not in a goofing around mood. Bless his heart…he tried. I gave him the death stare. He is a brave boy and it did not deter him. I laser beamed him with my eyes. He just smiled and kept talking a mile a minute. I grunted at him. He stood firm. When he is in a good mood not even a grumpy mom can stop him. After harassing me for awhile he decided to retreat to the downstairs while I blogged and had some coffee. I suppose I should go get a shower now. Maybe that will help….or maybe not. Grrrr……………..
I was reading our local newspaper this morning. It had a story about Dads being that it’s Fathers Day and all…People wrote in and told stories about their dads and the lessons Dad had taught over the years. I was near tears by the end of the article. Then again I’m the one who will openly weep during a good Hallmark commercial. I also have been known to sniffle at the Budweiser commercials that come on at Christmas. No, I don’t drink beer but Budweiser puts out the best commercials. Who doesn’t love the Clydesdale horses pulling the sleigh through the falling snow–warm lights pouring out of the farmhouse windows as family arrives for the holidays? Come on people! That is so sweet it deserves a sniffle.
I digress. I was talking about Fathers Day and was diverted to Hallmark and Budweiser commercials. My husband, Scott, is an awesome Dad. He takes his job seriously. He loves his kids and isn’t afraid to tell them so. He wants to teach them the things that are truly important in life. He will be the first one to tell you that he isn’t perfect…but personally I think he does a pretty great job. If he knew I was typing this stuff he would probably be a little embarrassed. (So, I won’t tell him) 🙂
Happy Fathers Day.
Wow. I saw the pictures of Cedar Rapids on the news this morning. The city is swamped. How in the world is this all going to play out? The Mississippi River isn’t supposed to crest for another week. People are in for a lot more flooding before this is over AND more bad weather is on the way. I’m telling you what, between the tornadoes and the flooding, people in the midwest have really been having a difficult time. I feel terrible for them. I wanted to cry when I heard some people being interviewed yesterday. They lost everything but what they could grab in a few minutes.
On another sad topic I really DID cry over the deaths of so many young people this week. The 11 yr. old and the 13 year old girls that were murdered in Oklahoma. WHY?????? They looked so sweet, and the fact that they were around my own daughters age just bothered me so much. I put myself in their parents shoes…..the girls had walked around that rural area hundreds of times and no one thought anything of it…now they are dead. The boy scouts that were on a camping trip died when the tornado hit. The boys were my son’s age. The one young boy had a big smile and I thought, “he smiles like Kendrick”. Last week he was alive and now because of a violent storm he is dead, along with 3 others. It’s just so sad. I don’t even have words………